Since we know that one day, we shall all die, preparing for our death and funeral, as difficult as it may be, is a good thing. Every day as we say the rosary, we are already preparing for death as we ask our blessed Mother to intercede for us: ‘Pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death.’
I once shared the story of a parishioner whose family only wanted a celebration of life. We know that as Catholics, Holy Mass is the sacrifice of Jesus for our salvation and at death, we want the grace of the sacrifice to accompany us on our way to Paradise. It allows our family, the parish community and our friends to accompany us with love and prayers as we return to the home of our Father.
It is a good thing to meet with your lawyer and include it in your will. You may discuss what you want with your family so that they know. You can also speak with the funeral home so that they have everything on record.
If you wish to speak with me, I’ll be available to show you the list of readings and hymns that you can choose from. I can also help with other questions that you might have. I too am preparing mine.
Therefore, in every deed and every thought, act as though you were to die this very day. If you had a good conscience you would not fear death very much. It is better to avoid sin than to fear death
Thomas a Kempis
Your brother,
Fr. Obi